I never wanted to be a co-active coach

I never wanted to be a coach. Never in the 20-plus years of my career history from animal physiologist to communications specialist did personal or business coaching ever show up on my radar. It may as well have been the stardust sprinkled on a rock located on a moon orbiting a distant planet in another galaxy – that’s how far coaching was off my radar. Yet at a critical juncture when my communications consulting business was poised to grow, my life and that proverbial stardust were destined to cross paths.

For over two decades, I had let logic determine my career trajectory. Intuition took a back seat and I had tread my way through the years to a crossroads where the next step eluded me. Here, logic was painfully inadequate. I wanted a business coach. In my search, I found The Coaches Training Institute (CTI). The more I read about their work, the more I felt like I was coming home to what I was born to do. THUNK! It all finally clicked.

So against all logic, and to the surprise of family and friends, I unleashed my natural intuition and took a step of faith. I’ll never look back. Imagine doing a cannonball jump off the end of a dock expecting a cold splash only to find the water warm, welcoming, dynamic and playful. That’s what Fundamentals training is. Heck, that’s what the on-going co-active® journey is!

The first of five courses in CTI’s core curriculum, Fundamentals training is the launch pad to coach development. It offers an experiential smorgasbord of co-active® “tools” through practice coaching with fellow students.

As an introvert, my biggest challenge in Fundamentals training was overcoming the perception that a coach always knows what to say. Being in the role of “coach” with a practice partner made my heart race each time. The funny thing is that my biggest challenge led to a whopper of an eye-opener: it’s often when coaches pause and say nothing that dramatic insights from the “coachee” come to light. It was from my silence, when I was stuck, tongue-tied and stewing to find something, anything, to say, that my “clients” struck gold with their own insights and creativity. Silence gave them the space to tap into their own resourcefulness. Over time, I learned to trust my curiosity and intuition, and to let go of coaching expectations.

Fundamentals was nothing what I expected, yet it was everything I needed to bridge the personal and professional me in a way that aligns with every single value I uphold. How many professions can make that claim?

CTI coaches often refer to integrating co-activity into their life purpose as “drinking the (co-active®) Kool-aid”. If that’s true – and it is – then Fundamentals training is like the first sip of clear fresh cold water after a drought. It perks you up and leaves you wanting more.

Where do you want to go from here?


This is a guest post for The Coaches Training Institute.