I recall a stand-up comedian who quipped: “You kids think your life is so hard. When I was your age, we didn’t even have water. We had to smash our own hydrogen and oxygen atoms together.”
The ol’ one-DOWNmanship. Who gets to claim to have drawn the shortest straw? What prize are we seeking when we play this game? I’m not always immune to it, either.
Does it make you want to reach out with compassion or send for the violins?
It’s one thing to risk vulnerability by saying, “This is where I am right now.” It’s quite another to claim it as a badge of honour.
The game transforms when we re-frame the challenge as a powerful question that raises opportunities. What do you need?
What’s your re-frame question?