Part 4: Through New Eyes

Seismic Resilience Series (Part 4 of 5)

Let’s link back to the stories we tell ourselves (Author, Director and Star). They must have started somewhere. They may stem from past events and cumulative experiences. Unlike the fairy tale of Cinderella, your experiences really happened. It’s not enough to change a single detail to shift the whole story, right?

Life events you perceive as being negative have the greatest impact and longest recall. They can have a tremendous, and sometimes unconscious, impact on how you view your world and how you see your place in that world… and they are one of the best places to unearth strengths and wisdom you didn’t know you already have.

Before you replay the story that you’re the victim of your negative experiences and that’s why you never learned how to play the accordion, stop right where you are. Can you recall an experience without re-living it? I’ve moved the “Get Curious” questions usually found at the end of each article to this point here. Take some time to delve deeper.

Get curious
Consider an event, relationship, or experience that had a significant impact on you. What were some of the “gooey” times you got through? What strengths and wisdom are now yours as a result? What do you know about yourself now that you didn’t know before? How will your “story” change now?

As you see your experiences through new eyes, you might even start recognizing little check-points that nudged you to stretch, grow, and learn a little more. You just didn’t realize it at the time. You’re on your way to discovering your strengths and inner resources. No one can take them away from you.

Hello, Resilience!