What difficult conversation are you avoiding? How is your body responding to the thought of it? More than the fear of not knowing what to say is the physical sensation of dread that blocks effective engagement. If you’re worried about what to say, don’t. When you use the conversational framework I wrote about in Keep the Door Open, trust your intuition and compassion that the content will align with the context.
Dread often prevents a much-needed conversation from happening in a timely manner which, in turn, comes full-circle to exacerbate the initial trepidation. Unnecessary dread holds many necessary conversations and relationships ransom.
Here’s the truth about breaking this useless cycle: When you ease through the “goo” and physical discomfort of dread, it frees up your capacity to be creative, resilient, empathetic, and resourceful. Continue reading Deflating dread
A dog that veers off, hell-bent on pursuing an enticing scent, tramps a haphazard path to pinpoint the source. This in itself is perfectly fine unless:
- Said dog is attached to a leash;
- Said leash is attached to an arm;
- Said arm is attached to a human caught unawares.
What’s the Bigger Picture?
Continue reading Bigger picture unleashed
For a while, I had been experiencing techy issues for my office. While we are creatures with extraordinary capabilities to adapt, the lack of certain business services can be highly disruptive. Projects and proposals were pending and working from an alternate location for an unknown period added an element of uncertainty.
Calling my business service provider to find a solution, I was told I had only two options – either, or – according to the company’s policy. Neither option was a step forward. I made a proposal. It got a “no”; it didn’t adhere to company policy. My request to make the proposal to a different department was met with, “Good luck with that.” (i.e., a pre-emptive “no”). Continue reading Keep the door open
On one side, there’s the silent majority that feels compelled to muffle and censor its pain, resistance, and vision. On the other is the silent majority whose encouragement, support, and love never see the light.
For both, there’s a sense of potential rejection. Sharing is stifled, vulnerability shunned.
There are things in this world that we consider as “silent killers”. Who would have thought that silence itself could be one of them?
You have a heart. You have a voice. Now what’s in your way?
In earlier posts, I’ve mentioned how the conscious practice of resilience when it’s least convenient is the key that bolsters resilience multi-fold (Occupy Goo). It feels counterintuitive, but getting through the “goo” is the fastest way to get to the gold on the other side. Continue reading The inconvenience of generosity