It cuts both ways

To those who vow commitment, yet choose immediate convenience.
To those who crave trust, yet remain guarded.
To those who aspire to create and share, yet clip their own wings.

And then a seismic shift begins…  Continue reading It cuts both ways

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High fidelity of B-sides

Let’s say you own a vinyl record album called “Fully Resilient”. The A-side would likely feature songs about positivity, strength, and gratitude with liberal sprinkles of affirmations and courageous quotes. Everyone wants to rock to the A-side. The B-side gets less play, yet it holds creative gems that tend to get overlooked. Maybe the lyrics aren’t as snappy or the scores are less catchy.   Continue reading High fidelity of B-sides

Even anger has a voice

Anger isn’t pretty. It’s not even pretty to write about. To be clear, I’m referring to the non-violent kind of anger stemming from some level of frustration.

There is the slow smoldering kind, the quick-flash kind, the kind threatening to overwhelm logic, the impatient kind, the kind that is linked to some previous experience or assumption, and the kind that shows up on another’s behalf.

Did you just notice that?… your initial reaction when reading this? It’s too raw. A tad distasteful?   Continue reading Even anger has a voice

Deflating dread

What difficult conversation are you avoiding? How is your body responding to the thought of it? More than the fear of not knowing what to say is the physical sensation of dread that blocks effective engagement. If you’re worried about what to say, don’t. When you use the conversational framework I wrote about in Keep the Door Open, trust your intuition and compassion that the content will align with the context.

Dread often prevents a much-needed conversation from happening in a timely manner which, in turn, comes full-circle to exacerbate the initial trepidation. Unnecessary dread holds many necessary conversations and relationships ransom.

Here’s the truth about breaking this useless cycle: When you ease through the “goo” and physical discomfort of dread, it frees up your capacity to be creative, resilient, empathetic, and resourceful.    Continue reading Deflating dread