Quick! Write down all the roles you play in your life, personal and professional. All the positions you fill. Business owner, athlete, parent, child, partner, friend, sibling, sport coach, director, administrator, care-taker, breadwinner, mechanic, instructor, organizer, social coordinator, confidante, mediator…
One day, I woke up to the realization that I was valued for what I could do in my role more than for who I am. I had delivered in the different roles I played. It cost me. I paid by meeting others’ expectations of what they wanted me to achieve on their behalf.
Freedom comes from sharing who you are no matter what role you play, not the other way around. Playing a role without sharing who you truly are and your unique gifts… deadly.
Look at your list of roles. Which one is the real, deep-down, soul-core You? That’s the You we need more of now.
A line was crossed and yet you tolerate the encroachment. In your pursuit of harmony and aversion to rocking the boat, you sacrificed an important part of yourself. What got bartered away in the ritual of social transactions? Your integrity, your honesty, your conscience?
How come your light got switched off so that something else could shine?
Was it a fair trade?
I know who you are. You’re an artist, architect, and inventor. You already have everything you need to create the kind of impact you want to have.
Where you are at this moment – whether it’s your first iota of growing awareness or the one-millionth step of your journey – is already a masterpiece not because it’s flawless or complete, but because it’s your truth and your compelling purpose coming alive.
And you dared to start it in the first place.
What compels you onward?
In his book, “Overcoming the Five Dysfunctions of a Team”, Patrick Lencioni describes commitment as “the ability to defy a lack of consensus”. While Lencioni was alluding to executive team-building, I’ll take a small liberty by phrasing it this way:
Commitment is the courage to defy a lack of inner consensus.
When there is no consensus within ourselves – when doubt, excuses, a need to seek permission, and fear threaten to shut down your vision – acknowledge the discord, then defy it.
“Sometimes even a single feather’s enough to fly.” ~ Robert Maclean (Nass River).
What does your heart hunger for? What inner wisdom can no longer be silenced?
The ability to cultivate motivation in the face of personal or professional challenges reflects how we view the world and how we create our own leadership impact. It’s not always easy or straightforward.
Creating your leadership impact isn’t about conquering the world or blasting through obstacles. Your life is sculpted by variable terrain that calls for resilience, awareness, and a readiness to adapt to different opportunities.
As a motorcycle enthusiast, I often call upon the riding experience to refresh, refuel, and redefine my motivational traction when the going gets gooey. Riding a motorcycle shifts my perspective, even when I can’t actually ride. Perspective is everything. It’s clarity. It’s pure momentum that will convey you as far as you dare.
Even if you don’t ride a motorcycle, what is the experience that revs things up for you? When you re-immerse yourself in that peak experience, take another look at whatever challenge or opportunity you face.
From that peak perspective, what does that opportunity look like now?