It cuts both ways

To those who vow commitment, yet choose immediate convenience.
To those who crave trust, yet remain guarded.
To those who aspire to create and share, yet clip their own wings.

And then a seismic shift begins…  Continue reading It cuts both ways

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Premature celebration

Championships and reputations have been lost this way.

There are many instances of premature celebration at all levels in the sporting world – triathlon, football, soccer, snowboarding, motocross, motorcycle racing, rollerblading, bicycling, rugby, bull-fighting, horse-racing, biathlon.

Miscounting the number of laps. Coasting to the finish line. Obliviousness to a soccer ball’s backspin. Tossing the ball in victory a half-step from the end zone. All is lost in a moment of inattention, in celebration of getting something not yet secured. It’s almost painful to watch.   Continue reading Premature celebration

Deflating dread

What difficult conversation are you avoiding? How is your body responding to the thought of it? More than the fear of not knowing what to say is the physical sensation of dread that blocks effective engagement. If you’re worried about what to say, don’t. When you use the conversational framework I wrote about in Keep the Door Open, trust your intuition and compassion that the content will align with the context.

Dread often prevents a much-needed conversation from happening in a timely manner which, in turn, comes full-circle to exacerbate the initial trepidation. Unnecessary dread holds many necessary conversations and relationships ransom.

Here’s the truth about breaking this useless cycle: When you ease through the “goo” and physical discomfort of dread, it frees up your capacity to be creative, resilient, empathetic, and resourceful.    Continue reading Deflating dread

Bigger picture unleashed

Walking the dogA dog that veers off, hell-bent on pursuing an enticing scent, tramps a haphazard path to pinpoint the source. This in itself is perfectly fine unless:

  1. Said dog is attached to a leash;
  2. Said leash is attached to an arm;
  3. Said arm is attached to a human caught unawares.

What’s the Bigger Picture?
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Wrenching with heart and soul

A while back, I took a motorcycle maintenance course. It was a combination of classroom seminars on basic bike mechanics and hands-on demonstrations, complete with a day in the shop to work on our own bikes. Everyone in the course wanted new knowledge and basic mechanical skills to make minor adjustments and repairs.

We were riders of different ages and different competencies, yet even the most experienced was open to discovering what lives beneath the surface. We were a curious bunch and, with our instructor nearby, we gained the confidence to take tools to our bikes.

When it comes to wrenching, the questions that haunt the newly initiated include, “If I take this apart, can I put it back together? Properly? What if I find extra bolts lying around afterward? Do I trust myself?”
Continue reading Wrenching with heart and soul