Anger isn’t pretty. It’s not even pretty to write about. To be clear, I’m referring to the non-violent kind of anger stemming from some level of frustration.
There is the slow smoldering kind, the quick-flash kind, the kind threatening to overwhelm logic, the impatient kind, the kind that is linked to some previous experience or assumption, and the kind that shows up on another’s behalf.
Did you just notice that?… your initial reaction when reading this? It’s too raw. A tad distasteful? Continue reading Even anger has a voice
A colleague recently asked for assistance in purchasing and establishing a business website domain. Having faith in her natural resourcefulness, I suggested a domain registrar and that she follow the simple steps to set up her account.
A few days later, my friend told me that, in her online search for the correct website, some highly suggestive and questionable results were coming up. It turns out the search term she typed was “BigDaddy”! Continue reading You find what you look for
Brenda Guiled has been a kindred spirit friend since 1995 when we started our journeys in Okinawan go-ju (hard-soft) karate. While my life journey took a different path, Brenda continued on. In 2002, she graduated to 3rd-degree black belt and soon after founded the Salt Spring Shorei-Kan dojo on Salt Spring Island, BC, continuing since then as chief instructor. Recently, I found my old belt and recalled the wisdom in the metaphor of a black belt’s transition back to white through dedication and sustained commitment. I asked Brenda to share her journey through karate and its influence in her life. May Brenda’s story nudge your curiosity to discover where your own experiences and perspectives interweave. Thank you, Brenda for your always-curious creativity.
“White Bird” (monoprint) by Brenda Guiled.
We talk about “getting it together”, to centre our life and somehow keep it that way. Big ‘somehow’!
There are reliable ways to do this and countless approaches. It comes down to one thing: bringing mind-body-spirit into such harmony and joy that it’s the normal state of being. ‘Mind’ is first in this modern-world arranging of these elements, with the body to carry it around, while the spirit is some ineffable other. Continue reading Body-Mind-Spirit Harmony and Joy — Guest post
In earlier posts, I’ve mentioned how the conscious practice of resilience when it’s least convenient is the key that bolsters resilience multi-fold (Occupy Goo). It feels counterintuitive, but getting through the “goo” is the fastest way to get to the gold on the other side. Continue reading The inconvenience of generosity
Seismic Resilience Series (Part 4 of 5)
Let’s link back to the stories we tell ourselves (Author, Director and Star). They must have started somewhere. They may stem from past events and cumulative experiences. Unlike the fairy tale of Cinderella, your experiences really happened. It’s not enough to change a single detail to shift the whole story, right?
Life events you perceive as being negative have the greatest impact and longest recall. They can have a tremendous, and sometimes unconscious, impact on how you view your world and how you see your place in that world… and they are one of the best places to unearth strengths and wisdom you didn’t know you already have.
Before you replay the story that you’re the victim of your negative experiences and that’s why you never learned how to play the accordion, stop right where you are. Can you recall an experience without re-living it? I’ve moved the “Get Curious” questions usually found at the end of each article to this point here. Take some time to delve deeper.
Consider an event, relationship, or experience that had a significant impact on you. What were some of the “gooey” times you got through? What strengths and wisdom are now yours as a result? What do you know about yourself now that you didn’t know before? How will your “story” change now?
As you see your experiences through new eyes, you might even start recognizing little check-points that nudged you to stretch, grow, and learn a little more. You just didn’t realize it at the time. You’re on your way to discovering your strengths and inner resources. No one can take them away from you.